Jun 7, 2023
Are you capable of forgiving?
In this episode of The Darin Olien Show, I chat with Danielle
Laporte about what it is to love, to forgive, and how they both
impact a relationship. Many of us tend to lead in our relationships
from our wounds and not from a state of consciousness that is
equivalent to love, which is the reason why so many relationships
these days go sideways at some point.
Danielle also shares the role that karma plays in our lives and how
we can recognize it in the relationships we are a part
of.
Danielle Laporte is a best-selling Canadian author, motivational
speaker, entrepreneur, and blogger. Her book, The Fire Starter
Sessions
(Harmony,
2014), is a best-seller and focuses on finding your passion in life
and work – inside the system and out.
What we discuss:
02:01: Why does Danielle approach goal setting the way she
does?
04:51: Is loving a feeling?
07:51: What is forgiveness?
20:02: Is karma a weapon?
23:54:What is powerfully you?
27:13: Are relationships really about love?
30:53: How do you know your boundaries are crossed?
43:51: Are we programmed by society?
45:24: Why you can’t lead from your wound
47:49: What can you do right now?
Key takeaways:
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We often fail to realize that some of our behavior in relationships
is due to some unhealed wounds we have within us. These wounds
speak for us and they may make us sound and act irrationally. The
first step to healing these wounds is acknowledging them. Then,
it’s communicating them to those we share a relationship with so
they can better understand where we’re coming from. While it may
feel tempting to forever act and speak from this place of hurt, we
must do the inner work to heal these wounds. We can’t blame these
wounds forever.
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Love is a state of consciousness that allows us to think beyond
just ourselves. But the ego wants us to believe love is just an
emotion or a feeling because the ego always wants you to be in a
state where you’re constantly searching to
“earn”
and feel the satisfaction of accomplishing such a thing. This means
you’re constantly looking for ways for which you can earn someone’s
love or that you can feed someone your love, so they can earn it
too. Therefore, to be in a happy and loving relationship, you must
make the switch from ego to consciousness.
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We are programmed by society to perceive ourselves in certain ways.
We see ourselves as a certain astrological sign, introverts,
extroverts, and all types of other boxes they try to put us in. But
the reality is that we aren’t to be told who we are - we are to
look within and find out for ourselves who we are.
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